LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP TONIC

Okay friends, I’ve been thinking of sharing this thought with you. To my fellow young people, both young men and young ladies, it’s not all relationships that we’re in that is tailored to lead us into marriage. There is power in relationships but the specific definition of every relationship is the foundation on which the success of that relationship can be maximized.

There are many kinds of relationships- Professional/Work relationship, Family relationship, Business relationship, Intimate relationship (the type that can led to marriage) and platonic relationship. Endeavour to keep each relationship where it belongs. Work on yourself and get grounded in this fact, understand it and take off in harnessing the power of the right associations. The right relationships graduate us into the right networks and the right networks gives rise to the right connections. Many people undermine the power of networking. It’s a great tool for as many as want to get to the next level of life with less sweat. Interact with people generally but also be on the lookout to spot

LIMPING BUT ALIVE

The story of Jocob’s encounter with an Angel of God is phenomenal.  When he was thinking about what he was going to encounter with his brother Esau, he was deeply troubled. He needed help; help from a higher hand. When he wrestled with the Angel, he told him, ‘I will not let you go unless you bless me”  The interesting thing was that the encounter was one that was going to change him for life; it was one that will he will never positively recover from …But it left him limping! The important thing about this encounter is that he was limping but he was alive; he was limping but he was made whole.

It is better to be limping and alive than to be whole and bloated with pride. Pride kills, pride blinds, pride cripples. Yielding our all to God is the best way to be truly alive. Jacob was alone when he had this encounter. This shows that certain life changing events that take place in our lives happen to us singly not ‘we and our children’, ‘me and my friends’ or ‘me and my wife or husband’. It is a single turning point, a powerful encounter that positions us to reach unto greatness and then we can affect the lives of our friends and families and others around us. There are certain things you have to sort out with God alone; certain things relating to destiny and issues relating to character. They are the offshoots of every other important area of our lives. Though we might sometimes succeed in deceiving others in seeing a part of us that we want them to see, if we don’t sort out those very important areas of our lives, we may never have any generational impact because the unlimited access to the insights that abound in God will not alight upon us.

Starting the year as a yielded vessel unto God ensures that we come out as transformed people. Sometimes, so many people give God their Boys’ quarter and keep their duplex to themselves; full of skeletons in their cup boards. ( I hope you get what I mean here.) When God dealt with Jacob, he was already a prosperous person- a wealthy fellow but his character flaw of swindling was still clinging like a cloak to him. That needed to be dealt with for the Eagle in him to emerge. That encounter was going to remove the lid off his life and until he had it, certain things would still not be right with him. To some people, the flaw is pride… ‘I makwa ndi anyi bu?’ To some others, it is smoking;  … ‘Nna mehn…make I take this one last stick…’ Yes..! They secretly want to quit but they can’t. To yet another, it is lack of self control in issues relating to sex; they want to get hold of themselves in this prevailing secret weaknesses but it seems pretty hard. To yet another group; it is unforgiveness that keeps them locked up in their own little world. All these things can be dealt with under God.

Today, many people look good, beautiful, and friendly and with some impeccable charisma but when you look deeper, they carry a lot of junk in their trunk.  You don’t see it but it is there; they don’t confess it but they’re aware of its presence. This junk in the trunk is like what the bible refers to as white washed tombs; wonderful on the outside but stinking within. Really this seems to be the lot of many a human personality but it is also what everyone of us must make a conscious effort to correct. To get within ourselves and allow God to deal with every sundry weakness which no one but us knows- this is one sure way of becoming a better person- a person transformed by God and believe me, victory is sure when we genuinely come to Christ! If you find yourself caught in the web of the things I mentioned above, don’t give up and say … ‘afterall, everyone is doing it…’ Many yielded vessels have attained a higher level , transformed and yielded unto God…so fret not, victory is sure if you yield to God.

For me, I am a work in progress; a work in God’s hands. I am working on myself too, I am becoming a better man everyday and I am trusting God for I know he does not abandon his projects. I hope dear friends, that you will work on yourself and yield unto God for that needed transformation that will take you to the top of your world. I pray that our character can be transformed at the feet of the Lord in these beginning moments of the year. If it takes you limping to be made whole, good; but you will be better off limping and alive than bloated and confused with pride and sundry vices. Let us give God a chance today because He- the Potter is molding us into shape- even though it may be painful right now, he will not abandon you as an unfinished product.

May the hand of God transform us into a people worthy in character, noble in ideals and indefatigable in spirit, prepared for every good works!

I love you!

Remain Blessed and Motivated.

D-Motivator.

...AND OBASANJO WROTE JONATHAN!

In recent times, I have tried to think about 2015 and what it will mean to the Nigerian nation. I am wondering seriously because the breadth of fresh air which the Goodluck administration promised us is gradually becoming stale. I used to strongly be a pro
Goodluck person but how I wish I can still proudly say that now. We Nigerians do not know how to agitate and even when we do, it is laced with ulterior motives and various forms of sentiments if not, we deserve more accountability than we are being given currently. Why must government continue to serve as a get-rich-quick system in the Nigerian society.?
I have read with dismay the 18-page Obasanjo's letter and I am somewhat amused. Obasanjo is genuinely concerned about the state of affairs in the nation but that is simply because he is no longer the one wearing the shoe. As a General, being in power and issuing command is like a birth right but now, times have changed.
The Obasanjo letter has opened up a lot that deserves some deep thought but when it comes from a man who funded third term bid, it leaves much to be desired.
With all these inherent bitterness from many quarters and some sublime agitations for ethnic supremacy, what is the hope of our nation come 2015? Who shall take our nation into the promised land? Is it PDP or APC? Who is as detribalised and as experienced enough as to go for us come 2015?
The problem is that in the absence of a better option, everything might gravitate towards Jonathan again while the power-desperate north will still keep making the country ungovernable. My friends, when will quality of person and value consciousness triumph over some kangaroo ethnic and tribalism sentiments?When will competence over rule nepotism and partisanship?  Who will fearlessly dare to lead us into that Nigerian dream where we are in word and in deed the Giant of Africa?
I pray that Nigeria will continue to stand as one united entity for I can not bear to recite to my children, There Was A Country, and then I will be referring to Nigeria instead of Biafra. With what is happening, I feel a serious lack of sincerity in the current administration; especially towards corruption. If truth is told without sentiments, Nigerians cannot endure a slow-paced administration for another four years. No, we need something better!
For Mr President, GCFR, I believe you mean well for the nation and you have the key but where is the will? Please for the sake of posterity, fight the good fight against corruption no matter whose ox is gored and let your critics be drowned in a sea of your good works.
For you my friends, please don't give up on our nation but while you hold on, remember to fight your own fight of relevance for when the chips are down, only those who fold their hands shall be at a huge loss.
May God grant us a heart of wisdom!
D-Motivator.

THINKING THROUGH.

During Nelson Mandela's 19 years imprisonment on Robben Island, one particular commanding officer was the most brutal of them all:

"A few days before Badenhorst's departure, I was called to the main office. General Steyn was visiting the island and wanted to know if we had any complaints. Badenhorst was there as I went through a list of demands. When I had finished, Badenhorst spoke to me directly.

He told me he would be leaving the island and added: 'I just want to wish you people good luck'. I do not know if I looked dumbfounded, but I was amazed. He spoke these words like a human being and showed a side of himself we had never seen before. I thanked him for his good wishes and wished him luck in his endeavours.

I thought about this moment for a long time afterwards. Badenhorst had perhaps been the most callous and barbaric commanding officer we had had on Robben Island. But that day in the office, he had revealed that that there was another side to his nature, a side that had been obscured but still existed.

It was a useful reminder that all men, even the most seemingly cold-blooded, have a core of decency and that, if their hearts are touched, they are capable of changing. Ultimately, Badenhorst was not evil; his inhumanity had been foisted upon him by an inhuman system. He behaved like a brute because he was rewarded for brutish behaviour."

Source: "Long Walk To Fredom" by Nelson Mandela

Within these days following his death, the life and times of the former South Africa's President Nelson Mandela continues to draw attention. I remember him within these days and hope that in the days ahead we shall have same zeal and passion for doing what is right and good to the common man. His 27 years in jail is easier thought about than encountered. He understood that people do what they do because of what is motivating them but dared to preserve his own inner convictions of not holding grudges unneccesarily.These trying moments refined him and when he left jail, he left all the anger and bitterness behind because he believed he was truly a free man. Some people are free but live as slaves in the prison yard of an unforgiving heart. In his own words, “As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn't leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I'd still be in prison.”

Are you one of such that finds it hard to forgive? Dare to forgive today. Sometimes, love is the greatest weapon we use to win the war of hatred. I know it can sometimes be very hard to forgive but try and learn to forgive today and walk in a wider realm of freedom.

I believe in you!

D-Motivator.   

 

 

COURAGE

In recent times, I have been thinking deeply on the subject of courage. Courage is a rare virtue these days especially among young people. I have learnt that many times we dream big but often feel reluctant to pursue those big dreams or even do what it takes for the dreams to be actualized. There is always this initial inertia that gives our inner man a thousand and one reasons why what we want to achieve will not work. Well, courageous people stand alone on their convictions. Not everyone will support you initially. A courageous man is always on the go, he is always up to something. He does not postpone what he can do today for tomorrow because while we are postponing, life speeds by. While fear goes backward, courage goes forward. Which one will you choose today? Courage or Fear?
For you to take strong decisions as a leader, you need courage, for you to get to your next level, you need courage. Courage does not envy people. Courage understands that the sky is too wide for two birds to collide. Courage is that which tells you that even though you fail today, there is always new strength for tomorrow.

What ever is the challenge, stay courageous and you will surely win!
I believe in you!
D-Motivator.

Alexander and Diogenes

Now when Alexander [the Great] appeared before the Greek leaders in Corinth they greeted him warmly and paid him lavish compliments- all of them, that is but one. A funny fellow, a philosopher named Diogenes. He had views not unlike those of the Buddha. According to him, possessions and all the things we think we need only serve to distract us and get in the way of our simple enjoyment of life. So he had given away everything he owned and now sat, almost naked, in a barrel in the market square in Corinth where he lived, free and independent like a stray dog.

Curious to meet this strange fellow, Alexander went to call on him. Dressed in shining armour, the plume on his helmet waving in the breeze, he walked up to the barrel and said to Diogenes: 'I like you. Let me know your wish and I shall grant it.' Diogenes, who had until then been comfortably sunning himself, replied: 'Indeed, Sire, I have a wish.' 'Well, what is it?' 'Your shadow has fallen over me: stand a little less between me and the sun.' Alexander is said to have been so struck by this that he said: 'If I weren't Alexander, I should like to be Diogenes.'

Source: "A Little History Of The World" by E.H. Gombrich

The Moral of this story is that it pays to have an independent mind. Don't let people sway you from here to there. Get an identity, don't let the quest for material things destroy the you on the inside! 
Find something you are known for!
Best Wishes as always!
D-Motivator.

Pregnant at 18, Best Graduating Student at 25!

Seven years after an unwanted pregnancy forced her to drop out of the University of Ilorin, Aishat Farooq emerges the best graduating student of the Bells University of Technology, Ota, Ogun State, reportsTemitayo Famutimi

When Aishat Farooq gained admission into the University of Ilorin at 15, to study Zoology, little did she know that she was not going to be an alumnus of the institution. That was in 2003.

Despite the fact that she was a high flyer in her first two years in UNILORIN, the now 25-year-old indigene of Ilorin West-Local Government Area of Kwara State got distracted along the line. She played the campus love game and got a shocking result: she got pregnant.

It was in 2006 and in her third year. She was pregnant for a fellow student whom she had been dating. She was disappointed in herself and thought the whole world was crashing on her.  Yet, she vowed not to terminate the pregnancy.